Thursday, 3 October 2013

Long distance friendship

I think everyone who moved to another country for an unspecific or longer time has thought about this. It's not like the discussion you might have with your boyfriend: If he is coming with you or not. If you stay together or not. Friends are not moving with you, most of the time.
You are also not breaking up with your friends.

Scrolling through my facebook pictures from the past years makes me so sad and happy at the same time- I went to so many different places with different people, made great friends... And it's pretty safe to say that all of my friends from all over the world will probably never be in the same spot at the same time (unless I fly them all in for my wedding). 
It makes me sad to think about it this way, because it means I miss so many people all the time. I miss being in certain places with them, I miss being with them in particular, I miss their presence in my life. It's something I really wish I could avoid.

I know for a fact that I will not be in touch with a lot of my "friends" from University when we finish our course. I guess that is okay- some are just not meant to be in for the long run.
It's not just that- some of my friends know everything about me, some only know tiny bits. Sometimes we became friends for a certain reason, sometimes for no reason at all.
Some friends I meet all the time, some I only see once a year. All of this has nothing to do with the depth of each friendship and I love that.
I was a very different person at summer camp than I am here in Edinburgh. Let alone at home in Germany- which is why my friends are as different as the places I met them in and I appreciate that so much- we bonded over the weirdest things and people from home will probably not understand the friendships I made in camp. How could they?
There are times when it tears me apart that I am stuck in one place, that the world is so huge and that there are so many places to live. I want to live close to all of my friends, but that will never be possible.

So what can we do about all of this?
Nothing really. Be happy with the amazing friends that we have, make an effort. Book flights and travel whenever we can to see each other.
But be okay with it when you can't see each other that much.

Because true friendship isn't being inseparable, it's being seperated, and nothing changes.


  1. aaalso:
    ich bin schonmal froh dass du auch hier gelandet bist, sonst hätte ich schonmal eine beste freundin weniger...wahrscheinlich hast du auch mehr freunde als die leute die daheim geblieben sind!
    Dann find ich deinen neuen header sehr modisch schick und das quote ist wunderbar :)

  2. wunderbarer eintrag:) freu mich schon auf unserer naechstes treffen! <3

  3. ach Joycii....ich freu mich schon auf deine Hochzeit <3